Let’s be real: some days feel like a never-ending loop of chaos. The laundry is overflowing, the toddler is melting down over a banana, and you’ve reheated your coffee three times without taking a sip. Sound familiar? You’re not alone—and you’re not doing it wrong. Parenting is a full-contact sport, and Finding Calm in the Chaos is about finding small, doable moments of peace within the mess.

Here are three simple strategies to bring yourself back to center—even when the house is loud, the calendar is full, and your patience is running low.

Use the Power of the Pause

Before you react—pause.
That pause is everything. When your child is screaming or your schedule is stacked, it’s tempting to snap into action (or frustration). But giving yourself just 5–10 seconds to breathe, reset, and choose your response instead of reacting out of stress can change the entire tone of the moment.

Try this:

  • Inhale for 4 seconds
  • Hold for 2
  • Exhale slowly for 6

You don’t need silence or incense—just a breath. This micro-moment of mindfulness helps you ground yourself and model calm for your kids, even in the storm.

Simplify One Thing Today

You don’t have to do all the things.
Sometimes the calm comes not from doing more, but from doing less. Pick one thing to simplify today—just one. Maybe it’s a freezer meal instead of cooking from scratch. Maybe it’s saying “no” to one invitation. Maybe it’s letting the dishes sit so you can sit on the floor and read with your kid.

Ask yourself: What can I let go of right now that won’t matter tomorrow?

Spoiler: The answer is probably more than you think.

Speak Calm to Yourself

You’re doing better than you give yourself credit for.
We speak so kindly to our kids when they’re melting down. But how do you speak to yourself when you’re falling apart? Your inner voice deserves the same softness.

Try this mantra next time you’re overwhelmed:

“This is hard. I’m still a good parent. We’ll get through it.”

It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being present—even if you’re a little frazzled while doing it.

Calm Is a Practice

Finding calm doesn’t mean your life gets quiet. It means you learn how to breathe inside the noise. It’s a practice, not a destination. And you don’t have to figure it out alone—we’re figuring it out with you, one episode, one moment, one breath at a time.